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Forbidden Questions

Forbidden Questions:

Questions we would love to ask, but for fear of loosing our jobs, we dare not.

Question #1: 

What is RTO?

Return to Office

What's the big deal? 

Consider: An employee is told in writing that his position can be remote permenently. He is two years remote. He has relied on ARUP's representations regarding remote work. Andy wants to see people outside his office. Employee is told that ARUP has changed it's mind about remote work. Employee must RTO by (dates come and go). To do that Employee will have to sell his house, uproot his family, find a new home in SLC and now spend 90 minutes commute time per day. That's a big deal. 

How can ARUP demand RTO after agreeing to let employee work from home? 

The courts may have to decide that. 

Are there any lawsuits over this issue? 

Why has ARUP taken this position? 

They want to eliminate some positions.. 

Is everyone effected? 

Not the ones that have been granted exemptions. Look around, you'll find them. 

What else should I look for? 

Look for a group moving to a new home within the organization which is exempt. Then look for remote workers in that group. Those are the exceptions, moved to an exempt group to sheltler them from RTO.  

 

 

 

Why are "medical" directors assigned to lead technical disciplines of which they are uniquely unqualified? 

Sarah

Jenna

Clearly they don't know that they don't know and are dangerous. 

Question #2:  What is the cost of "return to office"?

financial, human, reputation, 

Question #3: Why is ARUP taking such a hard line against remote workers?

From Andy's own mouth, "I want to open my door and see people working." 

Question #4:  Why are "medical" directors assigned to lead technical disciplines when they have a 4th grade education in IT? 

Links to Articles

Reddit: The individual cost of return to office

Reddit: Hidden costs of return to work

Reddit: How RTO costs you

Forbes.com: Why Rigid RTO Mandates Cost More Than They Save

How much will/does Return to Office cost you?

Return-to-Office Mandates Cost more

Return-to-Office Mandates and the Hidden Cost of Brain Drain

The human cost of return to office mandates

ChatGPT: Negotiating #368

Talk about how remote work has changed middle management dynamics

Remote work didn’t invent middle-management dysfunction — but it exposed it, intensified it, and in some cases made it impossible to hide.

Let’s break down how.


1. From “Visibility Management” to “Output Management”

Before widespread remote work, many middle managers relied on physical visibility as a proxy for performance:

  • Who’s at their desk?

  • Who stays late?

  • Who speaks in meetings?

  • Who looks busy?

Remote work removed that visual reassurance.

Managers suddenly had to manage based on:

  • Deliverables

  • Communication clarity

  • Trust

  • Measurable outcomes

For managers who equated supervision with proximity, this was destabilizing.


2. The Rise of Digital Surveillance

In response to lost visibility, some companies adopted monitoring software (keystroke tracking, screenshot capture, time tracking dashboards).

This reflects a deeper trust problem:

  • If you measure keystrokes, you don’t trust outcomes.

  • If you track activity, you’re unsure about alignment.

Remote work revealed which managers were comfortable with autonomy — and which defaulted to control.


3. Meeting Explosion

One of the most visible shifts was the surge in Zoom/Teams meetings.

Without hallway check-ins, managers:

  • Scheduled more status meetings

  • Added alignment calls

  • Increased reporting cadence

The result:

  • Calendar saturation

  • Reduced deep work time

  • “Zoom fatigue”

Many middle managers unintentionally replaced physical presence with digital over-coordination.


4. Loss of Informal Power Channels

In-office dynamics allowed middle managers to build influence through:

  • Casual executive encounters

  • Informal conversations

  • Body-language dynamics

  • Real-time social signaling

Remote flattened some of that hierarchy.

Executives now:

  • Access broader employee input

  • See data dashboards directly

  • Hear from contributors in large virtual meetings

This reduced the gatekeeping function of some middle managers.

That loss of informal power created anxiety.


5. Increased Emotional Labor

Remote teams require:

  • Intentional culture-building

  • Mental health awareness

  • Proactive communication

  • Clarity of expectations

Managers now must:

  • Notice disengagement without physical cues

  • Handle isolation and burnout conversations

  • Foster connection without physical proximity

For many technically promoted managers, this was unfamiliar territory.


6. Accountability Became More Transparent

Digital tools create traceable work:

  • Project boards

  • Slack threads

  • Task histories

  • Version control systems

This made it harder for some managers to:

  • Take credit for others’ work

  • Hide underperforming teams

  • Mask poor planning

Remote environments favor clarity and documentation — which exposes weak leadership faster.


7. The Return-to-Office (RTO) Power Struggle

The push to bring employees back often reflects:

  • Executive preference for control

  • Manager discomfort with remote supervision

  • Real estate commitments

  • Cultural inertia

Middle managers frequently became the messengers of unpopular RTO policies — even if they didn’t design them.

That created:

  • Employee resentment downward

  • Executive pressure upward

  • Loyalty tension in the middle

They absorb conflict from both directions.


8. High Performers Thrived — Poor Managers Struggled

Remote work disproportionately rewards:

  • Clear communicators

  • Trust builders

  • Outcome-focused leaders

  • Autonomous workers

It punishes:

  • Micromanagers

  • Politically skilled but operationally weak managers

  • Those who relied on intimidation

The playing field shifted toward competence over theater.


9. Cultural Fragmentation Risk

Without shared physical space:

  • Culture becomes intentional or it dissolves.

  • Silos deepen if not managed actively.

  • Social cohesion weakens without design.

Middle managers now function as culture architects, not just task supervisors.

Many weren’t trained for that.


10. The Existential Question: What Is Middle Management For?

Remote work forced a hard question:

If teams can:

  • Self-organize

  • Communicate directly

  • Track work transparently

  • Report metrics digitally

Then what unique value does middle management provide?

The answer — in healthy organizations — is:

  • Alignment

  • Prioritization

  • Coaching

  • Conflict resolution

  • Strategic translation

  • Talent development

But in unhealthy systems, that value proposition was never clearly defined.

Remote work exposed the difference.


The Structural Shift

Remote work didn’t weaken middle management.

It transformed the skill set required to succeed.

Old model:

Control + visibility + gatekeeping

New model:

Trust + clarity + coordination + emotional intelligence

Some adapted.
Some resisted.
Some are still in denial.

RTO May Cost You Over $8,000 a Year

RTO (Return to Work) can easily cost you over $8,000 a year. 

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Dysfunctions of Middle Management

Middle management occupies the most psychologically difficult position in corporate life.

They are:

  • Accountable downward
  • Pressured upward
  • Often powerless laterally

That structural tension creates predictable dysfunction.


1. Information Distortion

Middle managers often filter information to:

  • Protect themselves
  • Avoid conflict
  • Manage optics for executives

Bad news travels slowly upward. Unrealistic expectations travel quickly downward.


2. Performance Signaling vs. Value Creation

A large portion of middle management time is spent:

  • In meetings
  • Writing reports
  • Creating slide decks
  • Managing perception

This creates “activity without impact.”


3. Authority Without Real Power

Middle managers often:

  • Carry responsibility
  • Lack budget control
  • Lack hiring authority
  • Lack strategic influence

This leads to frustration, passive aggression, or overcompensation through control.


4. Promotion Based on Technical Skill, Not Leadership

People are often promoted because they were good individual contributors.

But leadership requires:

  • Emotional intelligence
  • Conflict management
  • Strategic thinking
  • Talent development

Those skills are rarely trained formally.


5. Psychological Insecurity

Middle managers are vulnerable to:

  • Restructuring
  • Layoffs
  • Role elimination
  • Outsourcing

This insecurity drives:

  • Over-monitoring employees
  • Avoiding bold decisions
  • Political maneuvering

6. Metrics Over Humanity

Managers are evaluated on:

  • Utilization rates
  • Output metrics
  • Budget adherence
  • Deadlines

Human realities (burnout, morale, growth) become secondary.


Deeper Structural Causes

These dysfunctions aren’t just about “bad people.”

They emerge from:

  • Public market pressures
  • Scale complexity
  • Regulatory burdens
  • Competitive intensity
  • Globalization
  • Technology acceleration

Corporate systems optimize for predictability and control — but human creativity requires trust and autonomy.

That tension creates friction.


The Big Pattern

Modern corporate America often suffers from:

Optimization without wisdom.
Measurement without meaning.
Growth without grounding.

  1. Major Dysfunctions in Corporate America
  2. 97% of employees want to work remotely
  3. The How & Why of Remote Work
  4. ChatGPT: Negotiating #3

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